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Thursday, November 5, 2015
Bernadette/Jeannette photos
This is Jeannette before her nose job.
Here she is again, I blurred out the child. I don't post about kids.
Yeah, that's definitely the same nose. She looks better older.
She looks like she doesn't have a care in the world. I feel sorry for anyone that crosses paths with this eejit, or her mentally unhinged family. I'm also quite repulsed that she has reproduced.
See, Comments like this is what she had to deal with back then. I don't feel bad for Kirsten in a lot of ways. Mo one has the right to make a person's life a living hell
So... although I have been haunted by this crime most of my life, I think it is weird that people are making remarks about what Bernadette LOOKS like. Do you all have arrested development? In another post, someone was saying how much prettier Kirsten was than Bernadette. That isn't the point people. Kirsten was a HUMAN BEING and her life was taken from her at 15. It doesn't matter what Bernadette looks like. I will say though, that I can't believe that all of these blogs, etc. are actually her. If it IS her, then she must truly be a sociopath... because you'd think she'd have changed her name to something SO common that you wouldn't be able to google her and she could live quietly somewhere.
People are so stupid by always comparing looks etc. That's why Bernadette snapped and I can't hold it against her. Teens can be beyond ignorant and cruel to other kids.
One thing that has remained constant about Bernadette, is her arrogance. She has been able to fly under the radar for 25 years. In HER OWN WORDS, she has stated many times that the murder "doesn't seem real" and she "can block it out of her mind". She lives a very rich and charmed life in Texas, and she truly thought that she would never be found out!! She literally got away with murder, and she thought she could continue in complete anonymity indefinitely, If she had ever shown one SHRED of remorse; I highly doubt that anyone would be o curious about her; But like the FBI Profiler once said, "She HAS no remorse"; Bernadette is a sociopath. She doesn't feel the emotions of a "normal" person. She is quite pleased with herself, and the fact that Kirsten is dead.
This is a story I find interesting perhaps because I went to high school in the mid 80s and remember what it was like. I want it known right now that I do not know Bernadette, Kirsten or anyone else involved in this story. I grew up in a town far away from Orinda but very similar to it. Very Joneses and all about sports and back then I did not know this had happened. It only came to my attention many years later when the movie came out about it. My sincere condolences to Kirsten's family for such unimaginable tragedy and loss. Nancy- I admire you. Good for you being different and standing for who you are. I know first hand just how hard that is in a community that only accepts the norm and nothing else. Brittany- lay off of Bernadette and her family. If they are not related to you in any way, if you don't know or are not involved with Kirsten's family, stop your unhealthy obsession with ruining the lives of Bernadette and her family. It is not your place. Find happiness within yourself that will cease you from this very sick and unhealthy obsession. In reality, it only reflects poorly on you.
Thank you for your feedback. I do this to because I feel a grave injustice occurred. You may not agree with my approach, but at the end of the day Jeannette/Bernadette is still winning. She is still alive, and this Christmas and Thanksgiving her mother will get to see her and hold her children. Kirsten's Mother won't. Jeannette has had enough breaks. This site isn't stopping nothing for her.
Anonymous, Nov 6 A member of Bernadette's parole board was reluctant for her to go free and described Bernadette as "dangerous and possessing ''a hidden trigger that anyone can pull", so she should be spoken about if she poses a risk to the public. It's a bit rich that you are accusing Brittany of ruining Bernadette's life when Bernadette's heinous actions took away the life of another and not only negatively affected Kirsten's family and friends, but also damaged Nancy Kane's life. I'm sure she would have been quite happy for Nancy to get locked up.for Kirsten's murder. Bernadette's sisters would not be mentioned if they didn't draw attention to themselves by writing nonsense on this blog. Bernadette referring to herself as a "life hacker" hardly reflects very well on her, does it?
Bernadette/Jeannette allowed 2 other girls to be blamed in the Orinda Community for OVER 6 MONTHS!! I Guarantee you, that she was hoping that one of these girls would be arrested and convicted of Kirsten's heinous murder!! The ONLY reason Bernadette FINALLY was FORCED to confess, is because the FBI Men TOLD HER that they were closing in on her, and her arrest was IMMINENT. Bernadette didn't have this sudden change of heart, or remorseful feeling, and decide to confess!! She was CAUGHT AND FORCED TO SERVE TIME in a "Country Club Atmosphere", (I might add); She didn't "WILLINGLY SERVE HER TIME"; She is an EVIL, CUNNING, CONNIVING, SOCIOPATH; TO THIS DAY, and I hope she ROTS IN HELL FOR THIS!!
My question isn't whether the photos are of her. It really DOES look like her. I'm wondering if the blogs/ facebook/ etc. for Jeanette Tomanka are actually her. I kind of understand the idea of compartmentalizing the crime. I don't know how you could live with it otherwise... BUT ... how could you write things like "life hacker" if you had taken a life and you aren't a sociopath? I knew these girls. I have to admit though that to me, Kirsten WAS a very mean person... but she was also a child who didn't have the chance to mature.
AGREED. However, one of the things that bothers me the most about this case, is that Bernadette has a young teen Daughter. One day, she is going to ask about it, and her Mother and her Aunts are going to tell her that Bernadette was a VICTIM of a HORRIBLE BULLY by the name of Kirsten Costas. And "Hey, Daughter, they even made a movie about it". And what a COMPLETE, UTTER, LIE!! If I had a dime for every time some jealous girl in school made a snarky remark to me, or about me, I would be a MILLIONAIRE!! I Just feel bad that her Daughter will grow up believing that her Mother is a "Hero" and a "Victim", instead of the nasty, evil PSYCHOPATH, that she actually IS, and WILL ALWAYS BE!!!
Making the murderer a victim is wrong that little Costa girl was the victim. Someone posted and said they knew her and she was not very nice . Well you show me a 15 year old girl that is nice all the time and I will show you a very sneaky girl we were all stinkers at 15. The difference is you can grow out of being a stinker but a jealous murderer that has no remorse that can pass a lie detector is more than likely not going to change they will just adopt a new persona that they feel is acceptable.
Nov 6th, 8:31 You knew Bernadette and Kirsten? Did you also know Nancy and the other individual that was accused of Kirsten's murder? I agree with your point " she was also a child who didn't have the chance to mature". I'm not justifying Kirsten's behaviour, but it's not unusual for teen girls to be mean and bitchy. I was a bit of an asshole at that age and so were people I was friends with, but we grew out of it over time. I'm sickened by the fact that Nancy and the other individual accused of Kirsten's murder could have gone down for it. I hope Nancy and the other individual are well and happy.
My guess is that Miramonte High was FILLED with big mouthed girls; as was my high school. The real question should be, why didn't Bernadette just ignore Kirsten and others if she was so bothered by it, Like I HAD TO DO IN HIGH SCHOOL!! Why? Because I believe Bernadette is a Sociopath with Borderline Personality Disorder.(Just like the killer Jodi Arias) And btw, Virginia Protti Varela, do not respond using a fake name,wondering "What kind of expert am I?", and responding with your usual snarky comments trying to defend your sister and this brutal murder, etc. Kirsten just happened to be the very unfortunate poor soul that Bernadette focused her obsession/rage upon.
What school isn't filled with "big mouthed girls".It's a shame that those who felt victimised by Kirsten didn't give as as good as they got (maybe some did). She didn't deserve to be killed. if every bitchy 15 year old girl was murdered, there would be a shortage of 15 year oId girls. I agree that Bernadette is a sociopath and it's a shame she didn't leave Miramonte if she found the environment challenging
She was supposed to go to a Catholic high school. We were going to carpool. She changed her mind right before the start of Freshman year. I knew who the girls were who were accused... but not well. I was REALLY nerdy and REALLY picked on. Regarding the question of "why let her bother you"... At least for me, I had NO self-esteem then. There were a lot of things working against me in my home environment as well. Honestly, I remember thinking that I deserved the poor treatment I received. (I went to public schools through 8th grade.) The best decision my parents EVER made for me was to send me to the Catholic high school.
Bernadette's siblings went to a Catholic grammar school where THEY were treated poorly. There was a drinking fountain that no one else would drink out of ... it was called "Protti Private." My siblings still feel badly when they remember that.
Orinda was really a tough place to grow up... People took the joy out of everything if you weren't "worthy."
This case wasn't the only terrible thing that happened. An elementary school classmate was raped by numerous boys at a party. SHE changed schools and none of the boys were ever punished.
Why was the Protti family teased so much in general, do you know? I may be wrong, but it seems like their house was as nice as anybody else's. Did they not have enough money for extras? Or was something else going on?
They were middle class while the Costas and the community were upper middle class. Big difference. And Bernadette's Mother gave a lot of their money to the church also. We see how that turned out.
I don't know... They weren't POOR, but they DID have 6 kids. And she was the youngest, (me too,) so her parents were a bit older.
She ruined SO many people's lives. Her own parents included...
I often think that as an adult she MUST have crazy regrets. High school is a BLINK during a lifetime... and just look, here we are more than 30 years later still talking about her devastating actions all because she wanted to be popular.
WOW, Jeannette is big; tall, big hands, big feet; poor Kirsten didn't stand a chance!! That's like putting a Heavy weight fighter up against a light weight fighter. Oh, and the fact that Bernadette attacked Kirsten, from BEHIND, WHEN HER BACK WAS TURNED. Kirsten didn't even see it coming; she didn't stand a chance. Not a FAIR fight for sure!!
Nov 7, 7:30 I'm sorry you had such a hard time growing up. That's sickening that the poor girl was raped. What a shame Bernadette didn't just go to the Catholic school and how creepy that you would have carpooled with her. Wouldn't it be great if we could detect sociopaths at first sight. Excuse my ignorance, but I don't understand the meaning of "Protti Private". Is that some sort of American joke?
The wounds that Bernadette inflicted on Kirsten really is absolutely sickening. I read that her wounds were two feet long and penetrated organs. What a viscous person Bernadette was. I really don't mean to sound crass, but I really do think that Bernadette is wetter than an otter's pocket at the thought of what she did.
Now that more information is available about Bernadette, I wonder if any of her neighbours are aware of her past? I would feel very disturbed if an indivdiual with Bernadette's past lived near me.
Now that more information is available about Bernadette, I wonder if any of her neighbours are aware of her past? I would feel very disturbed if an individual with Bernadette's past lived near me.
Brittany, do you have quotes from the trial? The following are suggested to be from the trial:
"I guess I was angry. I don't really know" "I ran up, and I said, ``Kirsten.'' I said to her, like, ``I was going to drive you home. . . .'' And she said: ``Just go away. Just go away.'' And she was banging on the door, and I don't know" "She was talking to that man or something. I think he was starting to drive away, and she was telling me to go away, and I just, you know, she was like, you're like that, you know, and she was turning in toward the door, and I just got angry, and I did it"
In one of the quotes, Kirsten says "you're like that, you know" Was that an 80s reference to a person being a homosexual?
I think some are missing the point that this case had nothing to do with bullying. Bernadette was not pursued. She pursued Kirsten. People who are truly bullied try to escape their bullies, daily. They want nothing to do with them. They certainly don't go calling the mother of the "bully", make up a party and then stab them in the middle of the night. Lets not forget the knife story more than likely was a lie. The prosecution and judge failed Kirsten. This story needs to be re told so Kirsten does not have the stigma of being killed because she was a bully. Bernadette was and is a dangerous, jealous sociopath. More psychological expertise should have been called to the stand by the prosecution. The stories should have been more investigated as many were lies, such as the knife. Did the toxicology report show drugs in Kirsten's system? Because Berni claims she was smoking pot AND doing cocaine. I am SO tired of reading posts of people that knew them both and how Kirsten was mean. It is irrelevant!
I read somewhere that Virigina was attempting to insult people by implying they have nothing better to do with their time if they are commenting on this case. People must talk about cases like this because the horrendous nature of this case is a stark reminder that not everyone who walks amongst us has the "emotional wiring" that the average person has. Such people will commit heinous vile acts without conscience, remorse or empathy. Bernadette not only stabbed Kirsten from behind, but she stabbed and "sliced" her inflicting her with wounds two feet long. She was able to put it out of her mind and calmly participated in classroom discussions about who might have murdered Kirsten. What kind of a person does that? That woman is a coward and a menace.
"People have nothing better to do with their time if they are commenting on this case". Is Virginia totally oblivious to what her sister did. This is not a harmless bit of curtain twitching nosing out the windows of drama in the street and gossiping about it! YOUR SISTER MURDERED A CHILD VIRGINIA NOT A BIT OF GOSSIP. PEOPLE NEED TO KNOW IF THIS EVIL PERSON IS LIVING IN THEIR COMMUNITY!
Marion, I don't think it was about bullying. Bernadette appears to have been obsessed with Kirsten and her obsession may have come across as something sexual.
Virginia appears to be devoid of empathy. After all, she did lie about the large kitchen knife being used to cut vegetables. How did she get away with that fallacious story? How could anyone believe such bs.
I never believed that tale. Who cuts vegetables in the car? Without a place to cut ON, that would be messy and awkward.
The movie tried to justify it by showing Theresa cutting and munching cucumbers while driving, but, again, who does that? Using a sharp knife while driving would be pretty risky.
Of COURSE she cares. I would guess that she and her sister literally spend HOURS DAILY trolling these types of sites. Why do you think she has created so many websites with FAKE information on them?? She is STILL a LIAR, in addition, of course, to being a COLD-BLOODED KILLER!!
I remember a movie aired on Lifetime(one of the better one's). Can't think of the name of it. It is a true story of a 16 or 17 year old high school boy who murdered a man who was a next door neighbor of the kid who was throwing a New Year's party at his parents house. The man came over to quiet everything down and in a drunken rage the boy, a guest of the party, killed him upstairs after some of the friends punched him. The friend's walked out of the room knowing the man was OK. This kid finished him off and no one knew. The wife of the man killed was able to convince the boy to confess at the end. This boy and wife after he spent some time in jail, now travel and speak to schools about violence and binge and bender drinking. This is a boy, now a man, who has truly changed his life. I think she actually helped to reduce his sentence because of their bond......................
You see, instead of the passive/aggressive approach the Protti's take with the lying and discrediting of the victim, the above story is a now man who takes full responsibility, has empathy and wants to help change the hearts of others. Take note Virginia and Bernadette.
Hi Marianne i don't think I have ever seen that movie. There was a movie I did see can not remember the name but can remember detail. Not sure if it is a true story or not. It was about a mother who's daughter could not make the cheerleading squad but the daughter's best friend out shined on everything and it was the mother who was consumed with jealousy because her daughter did not make cheerleader. And the mother went as far to arrange to get her daughters friend shot but it never went that far. I was just noticing some same differences in death of a cheerleader movie that's what the movie is called in England. And the movie I just described. I don't believe for one second that bernadette was bullied by kirsten. Bullying victims stay away avoid there bullys. not want to be around them when they can and invite them to fake party's. I think bernadette wanted kirsten out of the way so she could shine.
And this jeannette tomanka is very much silently active and checking her twitter account. I followed her on twitter out of curiosity a few weeks ago within a day she followed me back. She's not posting any cooking tips tho. I haven't interacted with her tho as in spoke to her. Don't think I have the guts to
I think the film you are referring to is called "the positively true adventures of the alleged cheerleader texas murdering mom". Holly Hunter is in it and it is based on a true story.
The worst thing Jeannette can do is block you. If I was on twitter, I would have no qualms about asking her about her past, particularly the 2 foot wounds she inflicted on Kirsten.
I also wondered about the friend in the movie that invited her to the party? Was that person real?? And the other girl that was her friend that hung out with Kirsten and was also a Bobbie and wonder if they have had any contact with her over the years. I have been intrigued with this story since I saw the movie many tears ago. I grew up in the eighties but had never heard the story.
She and her husband must be comfortable financially. Nice house, can have elective surgery, private golf lessons and all that. I know that her family member is really into golf and wants to go far, maybe is actually good enough to do so. Just thinking, say if they win big someday all the Bernie crap will be huge news. Sad for them.
"You are that way" so kirsten thought Bernadette was à lesbian because she was acting weird! I would have ran too! In thé 80s being gay was not acceptéd as well as it is Now!
Her large ass feet would be great for grape stomping for traditional wine making. She would get through barrels of grapes quickly with her titanic feet.
Harassing and Staling - that is all this blog is doing. Very unproductive and childish! Grow Up and MOVE ON! It is a shame your whole life is consumed with something you have NO control over and it has happened and is in the past. I feel so sorry for you.
An example of "harassing" and "stalking" would be to continuously follow Bernadette online and bombard her with endless comments. People writing their opinions of her on a small blog doesn't = harassment and stalking.
You have called me and the blog owner names elsewhere on this blog because we are disgusted with Bernadette's behaviour and sympathize with Kirsten and you have the audacity to tell others to "grow up" and "move on"? Why don't you "move on"and not write nine repetitive comments on this blog and accept that others are repulsed by Bernadette's murder and her remorseless behaviour after she killed Kirsten. One shouldn't have to explain why they are disgusted by murder, especially a murder as heinous as Kirsten's.
" It is a shame your whole life is consumed with something you have NO control over"
For someone's whole life to be consumed with this blog, they would be writing comment after comment after comment all of the time. That is not the case here, obviously. Just because people are disgusted with a murderer and sympathize with her victim, it doesn't mean that the spend their "whole life consumed by this". That ridiculous childish assertion suggests that your mentality hasn't progressed past your adolescent years.
No need to feel sorry for anyone else. As I wrote to you elsewhere, you should concentrate your efforts on a serious self examination to discover why you are so rabidly against those that are disgusted with Bernadette's heinous execution of Kirsten and her remorseless behavior after her brutal murder.
It's a shame Bernadette gets to go on with her life, as nothing ever happened. It was all over popularity. All because Kirsten was going to out her for being weird, to start with, she should of left Kirsten alone, and, she wouldn't of been on the mess she was in. She was afraid of being the butt of jokes at Miramonte, which she became anyway. Not only that, she can't return to Orinda without someone seeing her or knowing her. People there will not forgive or forget, there s people in the article who were friends with Kirsten and Bernadette saying they can't forgive Bernadette, and Kirsten's friends sure won't, and never want to see Bernadette again, none of her friends do. She ruined a lot of lives including her own, and has an image she will never escape. Then some former friends of Bernadette's have mixed emotions over this all. Well Costas family today will never forgive. It's their daughter, they had big plans for Kirsten, she could of made a lot out of her life, got married and have children and watch her kids grow up, that was robbed, and Bernadette got to have kids and her mom gets to see her kids.
So sad for the Costas family. In one post it said you will go to Hell and get raped by satan, probably Bernadette, she ought to know I doubt Satan would have to rape her repeatedly. LOL. Bernadette has got on other articles and stated horrible people you're all going to Hell. She thinks people should forget and move on. She should of thought about that before she murdered Kirsten, and allowed 2 innocent girls to take the heat for it, she would of allowed them to go to jail and not bat an eye, she only confessed cause the FBI was closing in on her. She should of been made to return to Miramonte, but she d of been in police protection and nothing would be done to her. Bernadette you're evil and can't be forgiven for what you did, at least not by people.
You are all sick and obsessed...Especially the author of this shitty blog..get a life all of you and leave Jeanette alone..she already suffered enough...
The Costas' suffered enough, but that didn't stop you from pretending to be Mrs. Costas on Bernadette's FB page. You say we are obsessed, yet you have written under countless aliases to harass Bernadette on her FB page, pretend to support her on her FB page, or harass people here. You have pretended to be Bernadette and her sister on this blog, which is very twisted. Judging from your behaviour on this blog and elsewhere, you are disgusting and pathetic.
I can't even look at her without feeling disgusted. I'm a young follower of this case (17 years old) and I can't even process some of it. The fact that Bernadette left Kirsten with 5 stab wounds, 2 being 2 feet in length, bothers me terribly. Kirsten was like 5'1" I believe. That's pretty darn small (I would know I'm 5'2"). I just wanted to share my opinion and theories about this case. Bernadette says she has an inferiority complex. Now, I don't know if she developed it or was born with it, but It does seem she developed it. I actually think it's her fault she did. She has extreme low self-esteem and has always thought of herself as negative. She made her mental health drop. I don't know if she was ever actually bullied, but she does take little snide comments to the heart. She takes them to the heart because they seem to prove the bad things about herself that she sees. A positive person would not have dwelled on a comment made about them. A positive person would probably had something smart to say back. I don't believe Kirsten was a bully. I do believe she did some nasty things but nothing that is "bullying." Bullying is something that happens daily. You do it everyday and constantly to the same person. Kirsten did not target Bernadette. I bet you Bernadette said some nasty stuff behind Kirsten's back. I truly don't think Kirsten did that with Bernadette. She hardly even knew the girl. Bernadette's failures proved her negativity towards herself so it definitely made her mental health plummet. She targeted Kirsten because Kirsten was the symbolism of her failures. Everytime she looks at Kirsten she sees her mistakes. Everytime Kirsten laughs, Bernadette's insides hurt (ya know that little pain in your chest when something bad happens?). I also do think that Bernadette knew Kirsten was at Cheerleading Camp and that's what definitely "broke" her. Part 1
She planned Kirsten's murder when school let out. Seeing Kirsten every single day during the school year was too much for Bernadette. It's sad Bernadette didn't take this time to improve her mental health or gain any positivity. It's disgusting knowing Bernadette only ever flourished after Kirsten's death. I don't think Kirsten thought Bernadette was taking her out on a date. I don't even think Kirsten thought Bernadette was gay. I think Kirsten had a feeling that Bernadette was getting angry. Teenagers aren't stupid when it comes to sensing things. Bernadette got angry because Kirsten saw through her. I bet you Bernadette thought Kirsten was a stupid bimbo. Bernadette thought she was smarter than Kirsten. Kirsten probably knew Bernadette was pretending to be somebody she was not and was getting quite uncomfortable in her presence. Maybe when Bernadette was explaining her feelings, she ended up saying it in an aggressive tone. This could have spooked Kirsten. Admiring is not the same as "I am in lesbians with you" (sorry, I had to). Kirsten probably felt odd because Bernadette was an absolute mess. Kirsten did not feel okay being lied to. Part 2
If Kirsten thought Bernadette was gay then she would have said more than, "you're that way." (I have a theory on that too so hold on). I don't think Kirsten told the man who her friend was because Kirsten did not fully see her as a threat. Also, Kirsten probably just wanted to appear strong like she had everything under control. I don't think Kirsten did drugs nor did I think she referred to Bernadette as "that way". This was all to tarnish Kirsten. A drug abuser, bullier, AND a homophobe? She must've had it coming (sarcasm). Unless we ever get an outside witness to that conversation then I don't buy it. Sadly, we can't believe everything that comes out of Bernadette's mouth. Her main focus is herself so anything she says about the victim is going to be quite negative. It's almost like she's molding Kirsten into the person she perceived her as. A dead person can't defend themselves and Bernadette damn well knows that. Part 3
True! There is absolutely no way of knowing what really happened in the car. The entire conversation could have been made up by Bernadette. We will never know Kirsten's side of the story.
Orinda hardly even defended Kirsten. A lot of people knew her but not enough to care. (I mean not a lot of people REALLY knew her). Remember: we only allow people what we want them to see. You can't tell me Kirsten never cried because of High School. Heck, that makes her sound human so Bernadette doesn't think about that. No one fully stood up for Kirsten (except her parents and some friends). I really wish they would share like small snippets of her life with us. It's hard seeing Kirsten through the lens of Bernadette. If we see Kirsten through the lens of Nancy, we see a more accurate version of Kirsten but not completely accurate. We all want to see Kirsten through the lens of her friends. Then, we get to see the Kirsten who wasn't it school, a social setting that forces you to almost wear a mask. I also forgot to mention that Bernadette always had a friend by her side from the beginning. Where was Kirsten's? Yeah, she had friends at the trial, but where are the nice words? Where are the memories? Did anyone care enough to share a positive Kirsten memory? I know there are people all over these blogs who claim to have known Kirsten. I'm an extremely skeptical person so those don't help. I feel bad for everyone involved. I feel bad for Nancy. Someone who, in my opinion, really showed what the Orinda Community was like. She was kicked out of a community that raised her because she didn't fit their image. They were okay when she did but they weren't when she didn't. I feel bad for the other girl who got accused. I feel bad for Kirsten's friends. I've noticed people also attack them. Remember: They were 15 year old girls. I bet you the death of Kirsten really messed with their heads. Actually when I think about it now, I think they didn't share memories of Kirsten because they already saw how badly Bernadette tarnished Kirsten. I feel bad for Bernadette. Something in her childhood must've set her on this path. Her parents seemed quite absent at the time. She ruined herself. She couldn't see her strengths because she focused on the negatives.(I also find it odd that Bernadette is a double Virgo. They are very critical of themselves.) I feel bad for Bernadette's children. I only hope nothing bad happens to them. I hope Bernadette is a good mother and teaches them kindness. I hope she teaches them to love themselves. I hear we try to give the lives we never had to our children. It seems she's already doing that. (I'm sorry for mentioning the children). I feel bad for her parents. They probably blame the whole thing on themselves. I feel bad for Berit and Art. They know what is being said about their daughter and they can't really do anything about it. The media already tarnished her completely. The bully theory has been pushed since 1984. 33 years. That is a long ass time. I feel bad for her brother, Peter. The loss of a sibling is unbearable. And last, but not least, I feel bad for Kirsten Costas. A 15 year old girl with a tarnished memory. Someone who won't be able to build up her reputation because she's no longer alive. She'll always be labeled as a bully. She was molded into so many different people. A bullier by Bernadette. A horrible person by Bernadette's friends. Someone who was cocky but not as bad as in the movie by Nancy (which is quite positive if we're being honest). A little girl at heart by her parents. "That Cheerleader" by every single newspaper. This post is extremely long so I'm sorry.
Well done on improving your grammar and punctuation, Steph. Could you not have come up with your own points instead of taking points from people on this blog and the rolling stone article and merging them together to make your comment?
1. You are obsessed with Kirsten's friends posting here. Things about Kirsten have been shared, but you want more.
2. Nancy gave as good as she got. However, her treatment after Kirsten's murder was wrong.
3. If you feel so bad for Mrs. Costas, why did you impersonate her?
4. If you feel bad for Kirsten, why do criticise her under so many aliases?
5. There are some genuine people on this blog who knew Kirsten, but most of the people who claimed to know her are your fake aliases.
6. Again, comments in your blog were directly taken from other people's comments.
It's like everytime someone disagrees with someone you call them Stephanie. I can assure you I am not Stephanie. Her grammar is too horrifying to fix. You apparently did not read my whole comment because I offered my own theories on this case. Also, I did not steal other people's comments. I was posting about the case and there is only so much that can be said. So, let's go through your points, shall we?
1. I'm not obsessed with Kirsten. Is it bad to want good memories about her instead of the negativity spreaded by Bernadette?
2. This point makes no sense. In my comment I said I felt bad for Nancy. I even said that what she suffered after the murder was wrong.
3. I've never pretended to be Mrs. Costas.
4. I do feel bad for Kirsten. I've never attacked her under any aliases.
5. I know Stephanie had a lot of fake aliases. You can't even read half of the stuff she commented so I already knew they were fake. I'm an extremely skeptical person when it comes to people knowing someone that died. I do believe that Michelle girl though.
6. I mentioned my own theories. Has anyone talked about how Bernadette might have made up the "that way" moment so she could tarnish Kirsten? I think not.
8. Again, I can assure you I'm not Stephanie. Also, how can one's grammar improve that fast? It's nearly impossible. I even commented with my blogger account. I don't see how anywhere in my comment made you believe that I was Stephanie.
Really don’t matter the conversations, ancient history now. But I do think her family ( Bernadette’s) knew all along about her killing Kirsten, “mostly her sister“ cause Bernadette wouldn’t know to clean all that mess up by herself. I believe Virginia lied for Bernadette on the witness stand. It’s disgusting to use a butcher knife between the seats and to cut vegetables, That’s very unsanitary. I think Bern told her sister Virginia about Kirsten and Virginia helped her cover it all up, lots of lives were destroyed and changed all over Bernadette’s actions, going to Miramonte was depressing for the Seniors that year cause it made them think of Kirsten and Bernadette being named the ( killer) their friend it was to much to take in, and the students there talk with Counselors over this mess. It helped some and Seniors went on with their year, they had to and just go in with it. MIT wasn’t easy for anyone at all. I’ll tell you what did it was jealously, Bernadette was jealous of Kirsten and all she talked about was how Kirsten didn’t like her, she was obsessed with that, but no one thought she would of been the killer. We thought it was a couple other girls cause one girl threatened Kirsten and told her she hoped she died, we thought she was so enraged that she lost all control and killed her, we had several we thought. They weren’t treated well at Miramonte or in the town of Orinda. Bernadette’s bff wasn’t exactly welcomed back after the way she talked about Kirsten and defended Bernadette, but she stuck it out since it was her last year there. She became an outcast also, hardly anyone talked to her or fooled with her and she mostly walked alone after that, so it was hard on her to.
Here she is again, I blurred out the child. I don't post about kids. 
She looks like she doesn't have a care in the world. I feel sorry for anyone that crosses paths with this eejit, or her mentally unhinged family. I'm also quite repulsed that she has reproduced.
ReplyDeleteThat hair...those legs...lol
ReplyDeleteHardly cheerleader material.
DeleteSee, Comments like this is what she had to deal with back then. I don't feel bad for Kirsten in a lot of ways. Mo one has the right to make a person's life a living hell
DeleteShort documentary about Bernadette and Kirsten which features Nancy Kane : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0V4GxTG7Z1E
ReplyDeleteIt starts at 24:39
It's very interesting
DeleteSo... although I have been haunted by this crime most of my life, I think it is weird that people are making remarks about what Bernadette LOOKS like. Do you all have arrested development? In another post, someone was saying how much prettier Kirsten was than Bernadette. That isn't the point people. Kirsten was a HUMAN BEING and her life was taken from her at 15. It doesn't matter what Bernadette looks like. I will say though, that I can't believe that all of these blogs, etc. are actually her. If it IS her, then she must truly be a sociopath... because you'd think she'd have changed her name to something SO common that you wouldn't be able to google her and she could live quietly somewhere.
ReplyDeletePeople are so stupid by always comparing looks etc. That's why Bernadette snapped and I can't hold it against her. Teens can be beyond ignorant and cruel to other kids.
DeleteOne thing that has remained constant about Bernadette, is her arrogance. She has been able to fly under the radar for 25 years. In HER OWN WORDS, she has stated many times that the murder "doesn't seem real" and she "can block it out of her mind". She lives a very rich and charmed life in Texas, and she truly thought that she would never be found out!! She literally got away with murder, and she thought she could continue in complete anonymity indefinitely, If she had ever shown one SHRED of remorse; I highly doubt that anyone would be o curious about her; But like the FBI Profiler once said, "She HAS no remorse"; Bernadette is a sociopath. She doesn't feel the emotions of a "normal" person. She is quite pleased with herself, and the fact that Kirsten is dead.
ReplyDeleteIt is her! I had my doubts at first but after seeing the pics, it's her! No doubt.
ReplyDeleteOh ,there never was any doubt: these pictures are real, and 100 percent Bernadette/Jeannette.
ReplyDeleteThis is a story I find interesting perhaps because I went to high school in the mid 80s and remember what it was like. I want it known right now that I do not know Bernadette, Kirsten or anyone else involved in this story. I grew up in a town far away from Orinda but very similar to it. Very Joneses and all about sports and back then I did not know this had happened. It only came to my attention many years later when the movie came out about it. My sincere condolences to Kirsten's family for such unimaginable tragedy and loss. Nancy- I admire you. Good for you being different and standing for who you are. I know first hand just how hard that is in a community that only accepts the norm and nothing else. Brittany- lay off of Bernadette and her family. If they are not related to you in any way, if you don't know or are not involved with Kirsten's family, stop your unhealthy obsession with ruining the lives of Bernadette and her family. It is not your place. Find happiness within yourself that will cease you from this very sick and unhealthy obsession. In reality, it only reflects poorly on you.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your feedback. I do this to because I feel a grave injustice occurred. You may not agree with my approach, but at the end of the day Jeannette/Bernadette is still winning. She is still alive, and this Christmas and Thanksgiving her mother will get to see her and hold her children. Kirsten's Mother won't. Jeannette has had enough breaks. This site isn't stopping nothing for her.
DeleteYeah, Britanny, the documentary is very interesting. I felt so sorry for Nancy. Bernadette's actions really screwed Nancy's life too.
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ReplyDeleteA member of Bernadette's parole board was reluctant for her to go free and described Bernadette as "dangerous and possessing ''a hidden trigger that anyone can pull", so she should be spoken about if she poses a risk to the public. It's a bit rich that you are accusing Brittany of ruining Bernadette's life when Bernadette's heinous actions took away the life of another and not only negatively affected Kirsten's family and friends, but also damaged Nancy Kane's life. I'm sure she would have been quite happy for Nancy to get locked up.for Kirsten's murder. Bernadette's sisters would not be mentioned if they didn't draw attention to themselves by writing nonsense on this blog. Bernadette referring to herself as a "life hacker" hardly reflects very well on her, does it?
Bernadette/Jeannette allowed 2 other girls to be blamed in the Orinda Community for OVER 6 MONTHS!! I Guarantee you, that she was hoping that one of these girls would be arrested and convicted of Kirsten's heinous murder!! The ONLY reason Bernadette FINALLY was FORCED to confess, is because the FBI Men TOLD HER that they were closing in on her, and her arrest was IMMINENT. Bernadette didn't have this sudden change of heart, or remorseful feeling, and decide to confess!! She was CAUGHT AND FORCED TO SERVE TIME in a "Country Club Atmosphere", (I might add); She didn't "WILLINGLY SERVE HER TIME"; She is an EVIL, CUNNING, CONNIVING, SOCIOPATH; TO THIS DAY, and I hope she ROTS IN HELL FOR THIS!!
ReplyDeleteMy question isn't whether the photos are of her. It really DOES look like her. I'm wondering if the blogs/ facebook/ etc. for Jeanette Tomanka are actually her. I kind of understand the idea of compartmentalizing the crime. I don't know how you could live with it otherwise... BUT ... how could you write things like "life hacker" if you had taken a life and you aren't a sociopath? I knew these girls. I have to admit though that to me, Kirsten WAS a very mean person... but she was also a child who didn't have the chance to mature.
ReplyDeleteAGREED. However, one of the things that bothers me the most about this case, is that Bernadette has a young teen Daughter. One day, she is going to ask about it, and her Mother and her Aunts are going to tell her that Bernadette was a VICTIM of a HORRIBLE BULLY by the name of Kirsten Costas. And "Hey, Daughter, they even made a movie about it". And what a COMPLETE, UTTER, LIE!! If I had a dime for every time some jealous girl in school made a snarky remark to me, or about me, I would be a MILLIONAIRE!! I Just feel bad that her Daughter will grow up believing that her Mother is a "Hero" and a "Victim", instead of the nasty, evil PSYCHOPATH, that she actually IS, and WILL ALWAYS BE!!!
ReplyDeleteMaking the murderer a victim is wrong that little Costa girl was the victim. Someone posted and said they knew her and she was not very nice . Well you show me a 15 year old girl that is nice all the time and I will show you a very sneaky girl we were all stinkers at 15. The difference is you can grow out of being a stinker but a jealous murderer that has no remorse that can pass a lie detector is more than likely not going to change they will just adopt a new persona that they feel is acceptable.
DeleteNov 6th, 8:31
ReplyDeleteYou knew Bernadette and Kirsten? Did you also know Nancy and the other individual that was accused of Kirsten's murder?
I agree with your point " she was also a child who didn't have the chance to mature". I'm not justifying Kirsten's behaviour, but it's not unusual for teen girls to be mean and bitchy. I was a bit of an asshole at that age and so were people I was friends with, but we grew out of it over time. I'm sickened by the fact that Nancy and the other individual accused of Kirsten's murder could have gone down for it. I hope Nancy and the other individual are well and happy.
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ReplyDeleteDon't know why people keep wondering if the pics are real. THEY ARE BERNADETTE/JEANNETTE, People!!!!
ReplyDeleteMy guess is that Miramonte High was FILLED with big mouthed girls; as was my high school. The real question should be, why didn't Bernadette just ignore Kirsten and others if she was so bothered by it, Like I HAD TO DO IN HIGH SCHOOL!! Why? Because I believe Bernadette is a Sociopath with Borderline Personality Disorder.(Just like the killer Jodi Arias) And btw, Virginia Protti Varela, do not respond using a fake name,wondering "What kind of expert am I?", and responding with your usual snarky comments trying to defend your sister and this brutal murder, etc. Kirsten just happened to be the very unfortunate poor soul that Bernadette focused her obsession/rage upon.
ReplyDeleteWhat school isn't filled with "big mouthed girls".It's a shame that those who felt victimised by Kirsten didn't give as as good as they got (maybe some did). She didn't deserve to be killed. if every bitchy 15 year old girl was murdered, there would be a shortage of 15 year oId girls. I agree that Bernadette is a sociopath and it's a shame she didn't leave Miramonte if she found the environment challenging
ReplyDeleteShe was supposed to go to a Catholic high school. We were going to carpool. She changed her mind right before the start of Freshman year. I knew who the girls were who were accused... but not well. I was REALLY nerdy and REALLY picked on. Regarding the question of "why let her bother you"... At least for me, I had NO self-esteem then. There were a lot of things working against me in my home environment as well. Honestly, I remember thinking that I deserved the poor treatment I received. (I went to public schools through 8th grade.) The best decision my parents EVER made for me was to send me to the Catholic high school.
ReplyDeleteBernadette's siblings went to a Catholic grammar school where THEY were treated poorly. There was a drinking fountain that no one else would drink out of ... it was called "Protti Private." My siblings still feel badly when they remember that.
ReplyDeleteOrinda was really a tough place to grow up... People took the joy out of everything if you weren't "worthy."
This case wasn't the only terrible thing that happened. An elementary school classmate was raped by numerous boys at a party. SHE changed schools and none of the boys were ever punished.
"Protti Private?"
DeleteThat sounds elite -- hardly the name that bullies would bestow.
Now, a family of bullying siblings who wanted to claim the fountain for their own might call it "Protti Private."
Why was the Protti family teased so much in general, do you know? I may be wrong, but it seems like their house was as nice as anybody else's. Did they not have enough money for extras? Or was something else going on?
ReplyDeleteThey were middle class while the Costas and the community were upper middle class. Big difference. And Bernadette's Mother gave a lot of their money to the church also. We see how that turned out.
DeleteI don't know... They weren't POOR, but they DID have 6 kids. And she was the youngest, (me too,) so her parents were a bit older.
ReplyDeleteShe ruined SO many people's lives. Her own parents included...
I often think that as an adult she MUST have crazy regrets. High school is a BLINK during a lifetime... and just look, here we are more than 30 years later still talking about her devastating actions all because she wanted to be popular.
WOW, Jeannette is big; tall, big hands, big feet; poor Kirsten didn't stand a chance!! That's like putting a Heavy weight fighter up against a light weight fighter. Oh, and the fact that Bernadette attacked Kirsten, from BEHIND, WHEN HER BACK WAS TURNED. Kirsten didn't even see it coming; she didn't stand a chance. Not a FAIR fight for sure!!
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ReplyDeleteI'm sorry you had such a hard time growing up. That's sickening that the poor girl was raped. What a shame Bernadette didn't just go to the Catholic school and how creepy that you would have carpooled with her. Wouldn't it be great if we could detect sociopaths at first sight. Excuse my ignorance, but I don't understand the meaning of "Protti Private". Is that some sort of American joke?
The wounds that Bernadette inflicted on Kirsten really is absolutely sickening. I read that her wounds were two feet long and penetrated organs. What a viscous person Bernadette was. I really don't mean to sound crass, but I really do think that Bernadette is wetter than an otter's pocket at the thought of what she did.
ReplyDeleteI like her lovely shoes!
ReplyDeleteNow that more information is available about Bernadette, I wonder if any of her neighbours are aware of her past? I would feel very disturbed if an indivdiual with Bernadette's past lived near me.
ReplyDeleteNow that more information is available about Bernadette, I wonder if any of her neighbours are aware of her past? I would feel very disturbed if an individual with Bernadette's past lived near me.
ReplyDeleteOur if he daughter's friends or parents know! I wouldn't want my daughter around Bernie!
ReplyDeleteThis woman has no shame. She does all this while Kirsten rots in a grave. How dare she?!
ReplyDeleteThis woman has no shame. She does all this while Kirsten rots in a grave. How dare she?!
ReplyDeleteBrittany, do you have quotes from the trial?
ReplyDeleteThe following are suggested to be from the trial:
"I guess I was angry. I don't really know"
"I ran up, and I said, ``Kirsten.'' I said to her, like, ``I was going to drive you home. . . .'' And she said: ``Just go away. Just go away.'' And she was banging on the door, and I don't know"
"She was talking to that man or something. I think he was starting to drive away, and she was telling me to go away, and I just, you know, she was like, you're like that, you know, and she was turning in toward the door, and I just got angry, and I did it"
In one of the quotes, Kirsten says "you're like that, you know" Was that an 80s reference to a person being a homosexual?
I think some are missing the point that this case had nothing to do with bullying. Bernadette was not pursued. She pursued Kirsten. People who are truly bullied try to escape their bullies, daily. They want nothing to do with them. They certainly don't go calling the mother of the "bully", make up a party and then stab them in the middle of the night. Lets not forget the knife story more than likely was a lie. The prosecution and judge failed Kirsten. This story needs to be re told so Kirsten does not have the stigma of being killed because she was a bully. Bernadette was and is a dangerous, jealous sociopath. More psychological expertise should have been called to the stand by the prosecution. The stories should have been more investigated as many were lies, such as the knife. Did the toxicology report show drugs in Kirsten's system? Because Berni claims she was smoking pot AND doing cocaine. I am SO tired of reading posts of people that knew them both and how Kirsten was mean. It is irrelevant!
ReplyDeleteAnd what about the friend in the movie who invited bernadette to this so called party??
DeleteWas this friend ever asked if this was true?
I read somewhere that Virigina was attempting to insult people by implying they have nothing better to do with their time if they are commenting on this case. People must talk about cases like this because the horrendous nature of this case is a stark reminder that not everyone who walks amongst us has the "emotional wiring" that the average person has. Such people will commit heinous vile acts without conscience, remorse or empathy. Bernadette not only stabbed Kirsten from behind, but she stabbed and "sliced" her inflicting her with wounds two feet long. She was able to put it out of her mind and calmly participated in classroom discussions about who might have murdered Kirsten. What kind of a person does that? That woman is a coward and a menace.
ReplyDelete"People have nothing better to do with their time if they are commenting on this case".
DeleteIs Virginia totally oblivious to what her sister did. This is not a harmless bit of curtain twitching nosing out the windows of drama in the street and gossiping about it! YOUR SISTER MURDERED A CHILD VIRGINIA NOT A BIT OF GOSSIP. PEOPLE NEED TO KNOW IF THIS EVIL PERSON IS LIVING IN THEIR COMMUNITY!
Marion, I don't think it was about bullying. Bernadette appears to have been obsessed with Kirsten and her obsession may have come across as something sexual.
ReplyDeleteI think the part in the movie about the girl inviting Bernadette to a party was one of the many "added" parts of the movie, unfortunately.
ReplyDeleteVirginia appears to be devoid of empathy. After all, she did lie about the large kitchen knife being used to cut vegetables. How did she get away with that fallacious story? How could anyone believe such bs.
ReplyDeleteI never believed that tale. Who cuts vegetables in the car? Without a place to cut ON, that would be messy and awkward.
DeleteThe movie tried to justify it by showing Theresa cutting and munching cucumbers while driving, but, again, who does that? Using a sharp knife while driving would be pretty risky.
Do you think Bernadette is aware that her picture now comes up on the google search engine? Do you think she cares?
ReplyDeleteOf COURSE she cares. I would guess that she and her sister literally spend HOURS DAILY trolling these types of sites. Why do you think she has created so many websites with FAKE information on them?? She is STILL a LIAR, in addition, of course, to being a COLD-BLOODED KILLER!!
ReplyDeleteI remember a movie aired on Lifetime(one of the better one's). Can't think of the name of it. It is a true story of a 16 or 17 year old high school boy who murdered a man who was a next door neighbor of the kid who was throwing a New Year's party at his parents house. The man came over to quiet everything down and in a drunken rage the boy, a guest of the party, killed him upstairs after some of the friends punched him. The friend's walked out of the room knowing the man was OK. This kid finished him off and no one knew. The wife of the man killed was able to convince the boy to confess at the end. This boy and wife after he spent some time in jail, now travel and speak to schools about violence and binge and bender drinking. This is a boy, now a man, who has truly changed his life. I think she actually helped to reduce his sentence because of their bond......................
ReplyDeleteYou see, instead of the passive/aggressive approach the Protti's take with the lying and discrediting of the victim, the above story is a now man who takes full responsibility, has empathy and wants to help change the hearts of others. Take note Virginia and Bernadette.
ReplyDeleteHi Marianne i don't think I have ever seen that movie. There was a movie I did see can not remember the name but can remember detail. Not sure if it is a true story or not. It was about a mother who's daughter could not make the cheerleading squad but the daughter's best friend out shined on everything and it was the mother who was consumed with jealousy because her daughter did not make cheerleader. And the mother went as far to arrange to get her daughters friend shot but it never went that far. I was just noticing some same differences in death of a cheerleader movie that's what the movie is called in England. And the movie I just described. I don't believe for one second that bernadette was bullied by kirsten. Bullying victims stay away avoid there bullys. not want to be around them when they can and invite them to fake party's. I think bernadette wanted kirsten out of the way so she could shine.
ReplyDeleteAnd this jeannette tomanka is very much silently active and checking her twitter account. I followed her on twitter out of curiosity a few weeks ago within a day she followed me back. She's not posting any cooking tips tho. I haven't interacted with her tho as in spoke to her. Don't think I have the guts to
DeleteAnonymous, Nov 14, 1:59,
ReplyDeleteI think the film you are referring to is called "the positively true adventures of the alleged cheerleader texas murdering mom". Holly Hunter is in it and it is based on a true story.
The worst thing Jeannette can do is block you. If I was on twitter, I would have no qualms about asking her about her past, particularly the 2 foot wounds she inflicted on Kirsten.
I also wondered about the friend in the movie that invited her to the party? Was that person real?? And the other girl that was her friend that hung out with Kirsten and was also a Bobbie and wonder if they have had any contact with her over the years. I have been intrigued with this story since I saw the movie many tears ago. I grew up in the eighties but had never heard the story.
ReplyDeleteShe and her husband must be comfortable financially. Nice house, can have elective surgery, private golf lessons and all that. I know that her family member is really into golf and wants to go far, maybe is actually good enough to do so. Just thinking, say if they win big someday all the Bernie crap will be huge news. Sad for them.
ReplyDeleteIs his last name Protti? If not it may never come to light.
ReplyDeleteNope, not Protti. But they'd be better off if it was, Protti is more common than Tomanka :(
Delete"You are that way" so kirsten thought Bernadette was à lesbian because she was acting weird! I would have ran too! In thé 80s being gay was not acceptéd as well as it is Now!
ReplyDeleteYou would have RAN -- but, would you have killed her? There is a huge difference between running and killing.
DeleteThose shoes are ugly!!!!! Lol
ReplyDeleteHer large ass feet would be great for grape stomping for traditional wine making. She would get through barrels of grapes quickly with her titanic feet.
ReplyDeleteHarassing and Staling - that is all this blog is doing. Very unproductive and childish! Grow Up and MOVE ON! It is a shame your whole life is consumed with something you have NO control over and it has happened and is in the past. I feel so sorry for you.
ReplyDeletestalking
ReplyDeleteAn example of "harassing" and "stalking" would be to continuously follow Bernadette online and bombard her with endless comments. People writing their opinions of her on a small blog doesn't = harassment and stalking.
ReplyDeleteYou have called me and the blog owner names elsewhere on this blog because we are disgusted with Bernadette's behaviour and sympathize with Kirsten and you have the audacity to tell others to "grow up" and "move on"? Why don't you "move on"and not write nine repetitive comments on this blog and accept that others are repulsed by Bernadette's murder and her remorseless behaviour after she killed Kirsten. One shouldn't have to explain why they are disgusted by murder, especially a murder as heinous as Kirsten's.
" It is a shame your whole life is consumed with something you have NO control over"
For someone's whole life to be consumed with this blog, they would be writing comment after comment after comment all of the time. That is not the case here, obviously. Just because people are disgusted with a murderer and sympathize with her victim, it doesn't mean that the spend their "whole life consumed by this". That ridiculous childish assertion suggests that your mentality hasn't progressed past your adolescent years.
No need to feel sorry for anyone else. As I wrote to you elsewhere, you should concentrate your efforts on a serious self examination to discover why you are so rabidly against those that are disgusted with Bernadette's heinous execution of Kirsten and her remorseless behavior after her brutal murder.
Did Bernadette every go by the name Sophia Petrillo?
ReplyDeleteWhy would she? Sophia Petrillo was a character in the Golden girls.
ReplyDeleteBernie looks very tall. Kirsten was described as petite. Poor Kirsten didn't stand a chance.
ReplyDelete@bbmokc
ReplyDeleteYou are so pathetic.
It's a shame Bernadette gets to go on with her life, as nothing ever happened. It was all over popularity. All because Kirsten was going to out her for being weird, to start with, she should of left Kirsten alone, and, she wouldn't of been on the mess she was in. She was afraid of being the butt of jokes at Miramonte, which she became anyway. Not only that, she can't return to Orinda without someone seeing her or knowing her. People there will not forgive or forget, there s people in the article who were friends with Kirsten and Bernadette saying they can't forgive Bernadette, and Kirsten's friends sure won't, and never want to see Bernadette again, none of her friends do. She ruined a lot of lives including her own, and has an image she will never escape. Then some former friends of Bernadette's have mixed emotions over this all. Well Costas family today will never forgive. It's their daughter, they had big plans for Kirsten, she could of made a lot out of her life, got married and have children and watch her kids grow up, that was robbed, and Bernadette got to have kids and her mom gets to see her kids.
ReplyDeleteSo sad for the Costas family. In one post it said you will go to Hell and get raped by satan, probably Bernadette, she ought to know I doubt Satan would have to rape her repeatedly. LOL. Bernadette has got on other articles and stated horrible people you're all going to Hell. She thinks people should forget and move on. She should of thought about that before she murdered Kirsten, and allowed 2 innocent girls to take the heat for it, she would of allowed them to go to jail and not bat an eye, she only confessed cause the FBI was closing in on her. She should of been made to return to Miramonte, but she d of been in police protection and nothing would be done to her. Bernadette you're evil and can't be forgiven for what you did, at least not by people.
ReplyDeleteYou are all sick and obsessed...Especially the author of this shitty blog..get a life all of you and leave Jeanette alone..she already suffered enough...
ReplyDeleteHi Stephanie,
ReplyDeleteThe Costas' suffered enough, but that didn't stop you from pretending to be Mrs. Costas on Bernadette's FB page. You say we are obsessed, yet you have written under countless aliases to harass Bernadette on her FB page, pretend to support her on her FB page, or harass people here. You have pretended to be Bernadette and her sister on this blog, which is very twisted. Judging from your behaviour on this blog and elsewhere, you are disgusting and pathetic.
I can't even look at her without feeling disgusted. I'm a young follower of this case (17 years old) and I can't even process some of it. The fact that Bernadette left Kirsten with 5 stab wounds, 2 being 2 feet in length, bothers me terribly. Kirsten was like 5'1" I believe. That's pretty darn small (I would know I'm 5'2"). I just wanted to share my opinion and theories about this case. Bernadette says she has an inferiority complex. Now, I don't know if she developed it or was born with it, but It does seem she developed it. I actually think it's her fault she did. She has extreme low self-esteem and has always thought of herself as negative. She made her mental health drop. I don't know if she was ever actually bullied, but she does take little snide comments to the heart. She takes them to the heart because they seem to prove the bad things about herself that she sees. A positive person would not have dwelled on a comment made about them. A positive person would probably had something smart to say back. I don't believe Kirsten was a bully. I do believe she did some nasty things but nothing that is "bullying." Bullying is something that happens daily. You do it everyday and constantly to the same person. Kirsten did not target Bernadette. I bet you Bernadette said some nasty stuff behind Kirsten's back. I truly don't think Kirsten did that with Bernadette. She hardly even knew the girl. Bernadette's failures proved her negativity towards herself so it definitely made her mental health plummet. She targeted Kirsten because Kirsten was the symbolism of her failures. Everytime she looks at Kirsten she sees her mistakes. Everytime Kirsten laughs, Bernadette's insides hurt (ya know that little pain in your chest when something bad happens?). I also do think that Bernadette knew Kirsten was at Cheerleading Camp and that's what definitely "broke" her.
ReplyDeletePart 1
She planned Kirsten's murder when school let out. Seeing Kirsten every single day during the school year was too much for Bernadette. It's sad Bernadette didn't take this time to improve her mental health or gain any positivity. It's disgusting knowing Bernadette only ever flourished after Kirsten's death. I don't think Kirsten thought Bernadette was taking her out on a date. I don't even think Kirsten thought Bernadette was gay. I think Kirsten had a feeling that Bernadette was getting angry. Teenagers aren't stupid when it comes to sensing things. Bernadette got angry because Kirsten saw through her. I bet you Bernadette thought Kirsten was a stupid bimbo. Bernadette thought she was smarter than Kirsten. Kirsten probably knew Bernadette was pretending to be somebody she was not and was getting quite uncomfortable in her presence. Maybe when Bernadette was explaining her feelings, she ended up saying it in an aggressive tone. This could have spooked Kirsten. Admiring is not the same as "I am in lesbians with you" (sorry, I had to). Kirsten probably felt odd because Bernadette was an absolute mess. Kirsten did not feel okay being lied to.
ReplyDeletePart 2
If Kirsten thought Bernadette was gay then she would have said more than, "you're that way." (I have a theory on that too so hold on). I don't think Kirsten told the man who her friend was because Kirsten did not fully see her as a threat. Also, Kirsten probably just wanted to appear strong like she had everything under control. I don't think Kirsten did drugs nor did I think she referred to Bernadette as "that way". This was all to tarnish Kirsten. A drug abuser, bullier, AND a homophobe? She must've had it coming (sarcasm). Unless we ever get an outside witness to that conversation then I don't buy it. Sadly, we can't believe everything that comes out of Bernadette's mouth. Her main focus is herself so anything she says about the victim is going to be quite negative. It's almost like she's molding Kirsten into the person she perceived her as. A dead person can't defend themselves and Bernadette damn well knows that.
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True! There is absolutely no way of knowing what really happened in the car. The entire conversation could have been made up by Bernadette. We will never know Kirsten's side of the story.
DeleteOrinda hardly even defended Kirsten. A lot of people knew her but not enough to care. (I mean not a lot of people REALLY knew her). Remember: we only allow people what we want them to see. You can't tell me Kirsten never cried because of High School. Heck, that makes her sound human so Bernadette doesn't think about that. No one fully stood up for Kirsten (except her parents and some friends). I really wish they would share like small snippets of her life with us. It's hard seeing Kirsten through the lens of Bernadette. If we see Kirsten through the lens of Nancy, we see a more accurate version of Kirsten but not completely accurate. We all want to see Kirsten through the lens of her friends. Then, we get to see the Kirsten who wasn't it school, a social setting that forces you to almost wear a mask. I also forgot to mention that Bernadette always had a friend by her side from the beginning. Where was Kirsten's? Yeah, she had friends at the trial, but where are the nice words? Where are the memories? Did anyone care enough to share a positive Kirsten memory? I know there are people all over these blogs who claim to have known Kirsten. I'm an extremely skeptical person so those don't help. I feel bad for everyone involved. I feel bad for Nancy. Someone who, in my opinion, really showed what the Orinda Community was like. She was kicked out of a community that raised her because she didn't fit their image. They were okay when she did but they weren't when she didn't. I feel bad for the other girl who got accused. I feel bad for Kirsten's friends. I've noticed people also attack them. Remember: They were 15 year old girls. I bet you the death of Kirsten really messed with their heads. Actually when I think about it now, I think they didn't share memories of Kirsten because they already saw how badly Bernadette tarnished Kirsten. I feel bad for Bernadette. Something in her childhood must've set her on this path. Her parents seemed quite absent at the time. She ruined herself. She couldn't see her strengths because she focused on the negatives.(I also find it odd that Bernadette is a double Virgo. They are very critical of themselves.) I feel bad for Bernadette's children. I only hope nothing bad happens to them. I hope Bernadette is a good mother and teaches them kindness. I hope she teaches them to love themselves. I hear we try to give the lives we never had to our children. It seems she's already doing that. (I'm sorry for mentioning the children). I feel bad for her parents. They probably blame the whole thing on themselves. I feel bad for Berit and Art. They know what is being said about their daughter and they can't really do anything about it. The media already tarnished her completely. The bully theory has been pushed since 1984. 33 years. That is a long ass time. I feel bad for her brother, Peter. The loss of a sibling is unbearable. And last, but not least, I feel bad for Kirsten Costas. A 15 year old girl with a tarnished memory. Someone who won't be able to build up her reputation because she's no longer alive. She'll always be labeled as a bully. She was molded into so many different people. A bullier by Bernadette. A horrible person by Bernadette's friends. Someone who was cocky but not as bad as in the movie by Nancy (which is quite positive if we're being honest). A little girl at heart by her parents. "That Cheerleader" by every single newspaper. This post is extremely long so I'm sorry.
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Well done on improving your grammar and punctuation, Steph. Could you not have come up with your own points instead of taking points from people on this blog and the rolling stone article and merging them together to make your comment?
ReplyDelete1. You are obsessed with Kirsten's friends posting here. Things about Kirsten have been shared, but you want more.
2. Nancy gave as good as she got. However, her treatment after Kirsten's murder was wrong.
3. If you feel so bad for Mrs. Costas, why did you impersonate her?
4. If you feel bad for Kirsten, why do criticise her under so many aliases?
5. There are some genuine people on this blog who knew Kirsten, but most of the people who claimed to know her are your fake aliases.
6. Again, comments in your blog were directly taken from other people's comments.
7. You are a real piece of work.
It's like everytime someone disagrees with someone you call them Stephanie. I can assure you I am not Stephanie. Her grammar is too horrifying to fix. You apparently did not read my whole comment because I offered my own theories on this case. Also, I did not steal other people's comments. I was posting about the case and there is only so much that can be said. So, let's go through your points, shall we?
ReplyDelete1. I'm not obsessed with Kirsten. Is it bad to want good memories about her instead of the negativity spreaded by Bernadette?
2. This point makes no sense. In my comment I said I felt bad for Nancy. I even said that what she suffered after the murder was wrong.
3. I've never pretended to be Mrs. Costas.
4. I do feel bad for Kirsten. I've never attacked her under any aliases.
5. I know Stephanie had a lot of fake aliases. You can't even read half of the stuff she commented so I already knew they were fake. I'm an extremely skeptical person when it comes to people knowing someone that died. I do believe that Michelle girl though.
6. I mentioned my own theories. Has anyone talked about how Bernadette might have made up the "that way" moment so she could tarnish Kirsten? I think not.
8. Again, I can assure you I'm not Stephanie. Also, how can one's grammar improve that fast? It's nearly impossible. I even commented with my blogger account. I don't see how anywhere in my comment made you believe that I was Stephanie.
same ugly bitch
ReplyDeleteHer nose is still massive!!! She should of got death row if you kill someone you should be kulled!!!
ReplyDeleteReally don’t matter the conversations, ancient history now. But I do think her family ( Bernadette’s) knew all along about her killing Kirsten, “mostly her sister“ cause Bernadette wouldn’t know to clean all that mess up by herself. I believe Virginia lied for Bernadette on the witness stand. It’s disgusting to use a butcher knife between the seats and to cut vegetables, That’s very unsanitary. I think Bern told her sister Virginia about Kirsten and Virginia helped her cover it all up, lots of lives were destroyed and changed all over Bernadette’s actions, going to Miramonte was depressing for the Seniors that year cause it made them think of Kirsten and Bernadette being named the ( killer) their friend it was to much to take in, and the students there talk with Counselors over this mess. It helped some and Seniors went on with their year, they had to and just go in with it. MIT wasn’t easy for anyone at all. I’ll tell you what did it was jealously, Bernadette was jealous of Kirsten and all she talked about was how Kirsten didn’t like her, she was obsessed with that, but no one thought she would of been the killer. We thought it was a couple other girls cause one girl threatened Kirsten and told her she hoped she died, we thought she was so enraged that she lost all control and killed her, we had several we thought. They weren’t treated well at Miramonte or in the town of Orinda. Bernadette’s bff wasn’t exactly welcomed back after the way she talked about Kirsten and defended Bernadette, but she stuck it out since it was her last year there. She became an outcast also, hardly anyone talked to her or fooled with her and she mostly walked alone after that, so it was hard on her to.
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